This third and final part of this series is about communicating with 难 students in a 道路 that will compel them to behave the 道路 you want them to.
The benefits, however, can be life changing for 难 students.
There are two mistakes teachers make when communicating with 难 students. Both are counterproductive.
In dealing with 难 students, teachers become frustrated and react 通过 scolding, 大喊大叫和威胁。
And once this happens, you’re done. 您 can’t help them. A bad relationship will sever any influence you had, or hope to have, with a 难 student.
When 难 students do something correctly, teachers tend to praise too much or too demonstratively. They hug, cheer, high-five, celebrate, and give rewards and prizes—often for 预期 行为。
This sends the 错误 message.
喜欢 行为契约, it communicates to 难 students that they can’t control themselves like everyone else and therefore need special attention from the teacher.
If you treat them like it’s an accomplishment not to be a disruption, then you’re setting the behavior bar for them spectacularly low. One sure 道路 to make 难 students stay 难 is to make a big deal out of 预期 行为。
您r goal with 难 students should be to build influence with them. When a student likes and trusts you, they’ll want to behave in a 道路 that pleases you.
Follow these guidelines to build a level of influence that will make 难 students want to behave.
Most 难 students get 道路 老师的注意力过多-通常是多年。成为第一个切断它们的人。的 讲座，提醒，鼓舞人心的谈话和无尽的警告。
Let your consequences do their job and give these 难 students a chance to become regular members of your classroom—and not the outcasts that constant attention can make them feel.
The fact is, most 难 students don’t like their teacher. If a student dislikes you, you’ll have an uphill battle getting him or her to behave. Every time you scold or berate a student, you drop further away from changing 行为。
Having a friendly connection with 难 students is an easy 道路 to create leverage with them. If they like you, you have powerful influence on their 行为。
When you get to know someone on a personal (ergo influential) level, you 发现 their positive qualities and they 发现 yours. 所以 when you speak to 难 students, avoid talking about behavior issues.
This is particularly true of 难 students.
所以 全班开心 and allow your 难 student(s) to experience the feeling of being part of it. Give them a chance to love school for once—few of them do. It’是行为的强大动力。
您 don’t have to lecture 难 students. 您 don’t have to beg, plead, or convince them to behave. 您 don’t have to be a psychologist or a Harvard debating champion. 您 don’t have to prove your point, explain yourself, 争论，生产，说服或操纵。
您 don’t even have to spend much time with them.
If you build influence with 难 students, and you’re committed to holding them accountable when they misbehave, you can completely and unalterably turn them around.
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